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COMPARING YOURSELF TO OTHERS

April 5, 2019


Are you guilty of comparing yourself to others? Waking up in the morning, scrolling through your social media, you thought to yourself – why is her eyelash so on point? Why is her skin so glowing? Why is her body so skinny? Why is her life so perfect? Stop whatever you are doing there. It’s not going to bring you anywhere. I struggle a lot with comparison, and I bet a lot of you are struggling with this too even though some people might not realize it.

Every day we carry this weight of the constant need to be the best. Aren’t we tired of always feeling like we are not enough, not accomplishing enough? The world gives us too many opportunities to compare ourselves to others. The world teaches us to always aim for perfection, but perfection doesn’t exist. So we feel that the grass is always greener on the other side.

Comparing ourselves is a form of insecurity. It comes from a lack of identity, lack of purpose and lack of confidence in who we are. We compare because we are searching for a sense of security outside ourselves. The nature of human being is we want to know our place in life, and we want to know where we are at the hierarchy of life. I began to measure up to others because I lack the sense of security from within.

Comparison is a thief. It began to steal my contentment and joy in life. Remember that security has to come from the inside, not from the outside. Be secure in yourself because you have the right values and standards. Focus on building your character that pleases God and not the world. Work on our humility and wisdom. Throw away our old bad habits. Instead of using your time to talk about other people, use your time to improve your knowledge in whatever areas that we are still lacking. That way, it will help us to be “inside-focused” not “other-focused.” Let’s support each other in improving ourselves every day.

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