When was the first time you felt like an adult?
Personally, it strikes me that I really am an adult when I paid my credit card bill for the first time. I know it wasn’t a grand enlightenment, but at that moment, it felt a lot like that.
But the thing about feeling like an adult is that it happens not only once, but also many times afterward. Like when I first had the first professional meeting ever; or when I first got the first professional email complaint. Like when Kalvin asked me to marry him; or when we moved to our new house.
I have to say that even though I have been an adult and feeling like an adult for several years now, sometimes – okay, many times, I still have very little idea of what I’m doing. But overall, there are three truths I’d like to share when it comes to adulting – my version.
IT IS NOT AS FUN AS WE THOUGHT
Remember when we were ten and all grown-ups looked super cool? Yeah, apparently it is not as cool. We thought we’ll figure everything out by 22 – and be very independent, rich, and mature by 25. I am now 24 – and I haven’t figured entirely everything out yet. As I have mentioned before, sometimes I know what I’m doing. Other times, I am completely clueless. But that’s the thing about being an adult: there is no grand milestone – but a process.
IT IS NOT AS BAD AS WE THOUGHT
Granted, it is not as fun or cool as we thought. But it is also not as bad as we thought. Every year as I celebrated my birthday, I thought to myself that I’d rather be who I am today than any other age. Sure it was fun to be 17 and had no obligations – but being 24 is not too shabby either. It is super fun to live on our own and doing something entirely for ourselves.
IT IS AN ADVENTURE
When you were in high school, everything was pretty much predictable. Junior high, high school, college – everything was in order. But being an adult is as fun as you want it to be. If you keep on waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect job, or the perfect person to make you happy, then you’ll be waiting for the rest of your life. But if you start taking that first step, it’s going to be an adventure.
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