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BEING AN INTROVERT

February 12, 2019



Some people messaged me saying “my mom forced me to go out and hang out with people, but that’s not me.” Being an introvert doesn’t mean you have to be socially awkward. An introvert tends to recharge by spending time alone. They lose energy from being in a large crowd. On the other hand, extroverts get exhausted when they spend too much time alone. They recharge by being social.

But being an introvert doesn’t mean you always have to stay alone and don’t hang out with people. NEVER make it an excuse to not go out of your comfort zone. I am an introvert myself – I get creative ideas when I’m alone, I was always the last when it comes to raising my hand, I did not want to engage with new people, and I didn’t initiate small talks. But I realized those things didn’t help me to become a better version of myself. So I pushed harder. It might feel uncomfortable and awkward at first, but it can happen.

As long as I make sure I recharged myself when I’m alone, I can use that energy to engage when I’m with other people or in a crowd situation. I’m not saying I’m as good as my friends who are natural extroverts. But I’m always working on it (and learn from them). Sometimes I tried to compliment people, at first it feels weird, and I didn’t know what to say. But it helped me to see the good in people, whether it’s their outfit or their makeup that day. I try to ask more questions, always start with the easy ones – about books, movies, or restaurants. After that, I always try to have an open conversation – without thinking you are going to either agree or disagree, be open-minded, it is a way to interact, learn, and understand.

Being an introvert has its advantages. You’re less likely to insult someone whose opinion you don’t agree. You will less likely get bored when you’re alone than someone who needs a constant social recharge. But everything is about balance – try to be more open in revealing your feelings and opinions to make the best of both worlds. You can always stay true to your personality while not holding the image of antisocial.

I want to encourage all of us here to make an effort to break your comfort zone. Don’t say no to an invite just because you don’t know 50% of the people there. I know it sounds scary, and your first thought would be ‘I just wanna stay at home, or I just wanna be with my comfort friends.’ Don’t make excuses, meet new people, and try harder. I’m not saying all the time. Of course, you can have your alone time too once in a while. Being a better person each day means sometimes we have to do things that are uncomfortable, but it forces us to grow into a better
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